In some societies, people look at a couple with age difference in a weird way, especially if the woman is older, they automatically assume that she is controlling the relationship and the man has no power in it, and they start making judges and accusing the man of having a low self-respect and weak personality. However, if the woman is younger, they seem to accept it and say it is normal and acceptable.
We also notice most of the times that a large part of the society consider age as a way to measure maturity and wisdom, women tend to date or marry an older man because they think that he is mature and has more experience and it would make her learn so many things from him and also be protected from whatever challenges the life has to offer, on the other hand, a man would be seeking a relationship with an older woman because he feels insecure or he has been lacking some maternal intention in his life that he thinks he might find if he goes out or marry a woman 10 or 15 years older than him.
With that being said, it doesn’t mean that all relationships with an age gap are based on some of these reasons, some couples seem to handle it perfectly well because they actually love and respect each other and the age is just a number for them.
When I say age difference, I mostly mean a generation difference, when the two parts have 10 years or more between them. Being born in different generations mean having difference thoughts and interests sometimes.
This might not seem very clear at the beginning of a relationship because they are both relatively young and just figuring out what’s going on, but with the years passing, the age gap will start to show more and more and they will realize the differences and then the problems will start because each one of them wants something that the other is not very interested in.
When the age gap is between 2 to 5 years if seems very normal, because the two couples are from the same generation and have been living during the same time and been building a personality according to that, which makes them compatible and more relevant to live a healthy and happy relationship.
This doesn’t mean that having a small age gap in a couple will help them prevent problems and avoid conflicts, what this means is that they more likely to be able to solve them in a good way, because they will be communicating in the same language ( generation language ) which will help them get over the challenges in a better way and they carry on with their relationship in a good atmosphere.
In the contrary of what some people think, age does not define a person’s level of maturity and wisdom, these two things are built through experiences in life and whether the person is ready or not to face life obstacles and get over his comfort zone, and this goes for both sides wither a man or a woman.
In addition to that, a big age difference relationship also has hope to work if the two parties are willing to sacrifice and ignore society’s look at them and think about themselves before thinking what others will say. And also build the relationship on trust and respect and avoid seeking maternal needs in an older woman or security and safety in an older man.
At the end, we could say that the key for such a relationship to work is to love and accept the person for who he is no matter his age or social status. Try to always avoid what people say and believe in each other. This way the couple could survive life’s challenges.